Posts tagged ‘motherhood’

March 26, 2011

My child is my reward

The interviewer (Arzu Soltan) met Zumrud Alimatova in her home in Gusar, Azerbaijan. The conversation took place over a glass of tea at Zumrud’s well-lit, spacious, clean house. She felt some uneasiness about the voice recorder and was more outspoken when the recorder was turned off.

I am 38, married. I have three children – a 19 year-old daughter, and two sons – 15 and 10. I’ve been married for 17 years. I am my husband’s second wife. When we married, he already had two children and the two eldest children are from his first marriage. The little boy is mine.

When I was 21, I was married to a different man. I moved with him to a mountainous village and we had a very good life there, with good income. But I had a problem – I did not have children. Twice, I had miscarriages when I was six-months pregnant. I spent my entire third pregnancy in a hospital but it didn’t work again. The child was born after 8 months and lived for only one day. I don’t know what the problem was. All of my blood tests came back negative, I did not have any infection or anything. The doctor said that perhaps my husband’s and my blood types were incompatible but no one did any tests. Unfortunately, this must have been the reason. When I came out of the hospital, I needed to be cared for, so my mother took me to her home. And then my husband never came to take me back. That’s how we separated.

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